10 Perks To Your Child With Autism Being Bullied, 24 hours Later Community Uproar

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The more I have pondered the worse it gets.

A well known and up until recently well respected online publication issued an embargo on all submissions relating to MMS GcMAF and autistic mistreatments.

They then have followed up with what can only be described as a hate filled article that could potentially incite violence towards autistics.

Why?

What had caused this to occur?

We are none the wiser as hundreds of comments fill Twitter, FB and the article on the website in question autism daily newscast.com yet the only explanation available from Roberta Hill the owner of said website is that the article was an opinion piece and has now been moved to the correct location.

Not an apology and not a removal of said article which is still up inciting potential danger.

12166257_1648780805401030_194405561_nIn case you missed it is again linked as is the prequel to this article.

The reaction has been an outpouring of solidarity from the autistic and neurotypical community united in their horror of the piece in question.

The response has been as such that I have done this follow on piece as people deserve to have their say.

The National Autistic Society have contacted autism daily newscast and have voiced their concerns.

So let the community speak!

“ My son, a top student, abandoned his schooling after 9 years of serious debilitating bullying and harassment a few weeks ago.  Lost 2 years schooling, hope of University as a result.  His anxiety levels are through the roof.  This ‘bullying can be positive’ message is a killer”.

John Greally, autistic and father to autistic son.

 

“ It was with horror that I read the article published by Autism Daily Newscast today. An article taking what has been a traumatic, highly traumatic in fact, experience for myself and many other autistics and use it as some kind of bullshit inspiration porn.

 

There is no benefit or plus or positive of bullying. It is simply wrong and highly offensive to say that it is.

The author of this piece is a and ABA practitioner no less, an treatment practice with known links to PTSD for autistics that have endured it.

The ADN used it’s normal the views expressed or not necessarily the views of ADN however this is simply a cop out. This should never have passed their editorial team.

This is highly damaging to the autistic community. It is totally out of line with any evidence based practice or research regarding bullying which states in all cases that bullying is a negative and damaging thing to occur to anyone. It can and does have lifelong impacts for people subjected to it.

Furthermore this ridiculous tripe is no more than an exercise in victim blaming. It perpetuates a myth that it is somehow the victim of bullying that is at fault and should work to overcome the bullying and should use it for a learning experience.

We autistics are so often pilloried in the media. We are described as locked up, lost, psychopaths and sociopaths. Subjected to dangerous treatments, told we must change and conform to so called norms and now we can add to the list that we must suck it up and learn from and grasp onto the benefits of being bullied.

I can tell you that I was shamelessly bullied throughout my childhood, into my adulthood and at times this is still the case at times today. I have yet to find a positive from this experience, unless of course you want to count being scared of my own shadow,  fearful overtime someone walks behind me, jumping at the site of someone swinging their arm nearby. Not to mention a daily battle against my negative self-image which was perfected via the bullies constant teaching through both physical and mental and verbal and emotional actions that I was less, I was hopeless, a failure and worthless.

So no there are no 10 benefits to bullying for anyone, and certainly not for autistics thank you very much. Autism Daily Newscast should be absolutely ashamed of themselves. If they had any sense of a conscience they would remove the article immediately from their site. Issue an unreserved apology for the damage they have caused to autistic people and quite frankly they probably should just shut down their entire site.

I am disgusted and appalled”.

Richard Johnson Âû autistic and father to autistic daughter.

 

“Bullying in childhood left me with a mountain of trust issues, self-esteem problems and self-doubt that have lingered well into my adulthood.  I have trouble forming any sort of relationship with the opposite sex and still struggle with trusting even my best friends.  Please tell me how bullying was good for me.”

Anastasia Guiler, age 28, autistic.

 

“ What the fuck is wrong with these people ? I was verbally and sometimes physically bullied , one time I was tied to a lamppost by a skipping rope around my neck and my hands as well. Did that help me ‘build strength ‘ or did it make it clear to a 5/6 year old child that he was different and therefore unequal? Building strength my ass”.

Ali Lacy, autistic

 

“ When I read the part about bullying will toughen up your child I found that to be outrageous  and criminal”.

James Quazzey Daugherty, autistic.

 

“ Bullying is not ok whether a child is autistic or not. It destroys Children’s  minds instead of building them up. It’s our job as parents and educators to facilitate appropriate interactions between children. So it’s not actually the children who are bullies it’s the adults who allow their children to behave in an awful way”.

Pamela Bell, autistic mother to four autistic children.

 

Karen Sisto ABA Therapist wrote an Article recently published by Roberta Hill of Autism Daily Newscast.

This Article claims there are Perks to Bullying Autistic people.

The Autistic community is outraged and we view this Article and it’s content as dangerous as it firstly makes light of Bullying and secondly promotes violence towards the Autistic community.

Hundreds of complaints have been made to Autism Daily Newscast and also the Author of said Article.

Not one of our complaints have been acknowledged or addressed and after asking Autism Daily Newscast many times to remove this highly offensive Article, the Article still remains published for all to see!

Do we the Autistic community not matter?

Are we invisible to you?

As an Autistic Advocate with beautiful Autistic children I feel stunned and disgusted that Autism Daily Newscast published this insane article and even more shocked that they continue to ignore our concerns and complaints.

Roberta Hill and her Media Outlet Autism Daily Newscast are meant to support the Autistic community?

Instead they give platforms for ABA therapists and the likes who encourage dangerous messages like the ones portrayed in the Karen Sisto Article.

I have been bullied throughout my life and the NEGATIVE affects of Bullying last forever!

NO PERKS! NO BENEFITS!

JUST HURT! LACK OF CONFIDENCE AND PAIN!

This article makes a MOCKERY of BULLYING!

We the Autistic community will not walk away from this matter and we eagerly await an apology from Roberta Hill,  Karen Sisto and Autism Daily Newscast!

Fiona O’Leary

ART Autistic Rights Together”.

Fiona Oleary, autistic mother to two autistic sons.

 

“This idiot was obviously never bullied at school. Perhaps she ought to try these “perks”.

Bill Anderton, autistic and father to an autistic daughter.

 

“ One of my biggest concerns here is, and the biggest threat this poses, is that it will exacerbate a bullying problem, when people have an article like this that practically excuses bullies and protects them, in a very warped way, as some sort of canvass to spread awareness”.

Thomas Âû Wall.

 

“ Whereas I agree that bullying is hard to prevent; and when it does happen, an opportunity opens up to promote acceptance, inclusion and improved communications; some key phrases stick out. The are no perks to the bullied person. It’s like saying there’s a perk to burning in hell.

“If everyone seizes the opportunity…… as a team…. With your help, schools should focus….”

 

Forget it. Parents aren’t seen as equal partners or team members by schools. Any help offered will be thrown away as “we studied for this, we know better”.

 

This obviously educated lady made a very poor choice in the wording used, and lives in Cloud Cuckoo-land when it comes to envisioning how parents can tackle this.

Also to think that it will help ASD kids (or any child for that matter, the world is full of social NT wrecks due bullying) to come out of their shell is as as optimistic as thinking that 15 years exposure to hardened criminals will turn a juvenile delinquent into a prime member of society ….”.

Andre Van Schoonhoven, autistic father to an autistic son.

 

“ When I was 12 a classmate kindly advised me that the rest of them would like me if I wasn’t “so soft” and didn’t cry so much. When I was 13 someone told me they couldn’t decide if I or my friend was the most hated in the whole school. I began cutting myself to control my emotions and appear more “hard” and thus more likeable. That’s what I learned from bullying. “Discussing the communication and social deficits experienced by kids with autism”??? Why don’t we discuss the communication and social deficits displayed by the bullies?”

Jo Anderton, autistic.

 

12164884_1648778862067891_1719949580_oAnd finally my eight year old son who expresses more sense then the author or the editor of autism daily newscast.

 

“ I hate this. It’s ignorant, bullying people isn’t good. The woman who wrote this is ignorant and shouldn’t write these words. Being bullied doesn’t feel very nice.

The woman who wrote that should shut up”.

Damien Dalmayne, autistic .

 

Do the right thing Roberta Hill, remove the article we the autistic community speak as one.

Links

My first article regarding this atrocity:

http://autisticatedalmayne.com/autism/10-perks-kids-with-autism-get-from-bullying-the-autistic-communitys-response/

Original Article published by ADN:
Article by Richard Johnson Âû
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  1. Kate Gladstone  October 21, 2015

    The “Autism Daily News” people SLIGHTLY re-edited the article (changing “perks” to “strategies” and changing/adding a few other words), and closed thr comments, removing several people’s comments (mine among them) at the same time. It’s still at the same URL …,and, of course, the ten things they are calling “strategies” now are even less “strategies” than they were “perks”!

    So go there, read the article, then (if you agree that it’s even worse than it was!) DIRECTLY reach the author and editor (the author is VERY easily Googled, and the editor/owner gets messages via Facebook Messages at Autism Daily News’ Facebook page.

    Below is my response, in full, to the (unacceptably) rewritten article, which I have sent to the persons concerned. Feel free to use it to,spur your own ideas, if it helps.

    The article’s vaunted change of title is a “Band-Aid” superficiality: plastering over the tiniest fraction of the surface of the wound you caused (which your article continues to inflict).
    Changing the title, adding a word here, shading and a phrase there — without _fundamental_ change in the underlying presuppositions and attitudes — reveals itself clearly in thexslightly revised piece’s ineffectiv attempt to purvey ten alleged “bullying perks” as now, oh-so-nicely, “strategies.”

    Let’s look, point by point, at what you are now dubbing “strategies.”

    SISTO: “1. Promoting Autism-Friendly Programs: Bullying in schools can sometimes be the result of prejudice against the unexpected ways that children with autism speak and socialize.”

    ———– RESPONSE: To say that bullying is “sometimes” the result of prejudice is false. There is NO act of bullying that does not stem from someone’s prejudice. Prejudice instigates EVERY act of bullying — or (to call things by clear names) every act of torture, harassment, and assault.
    (Torture, harassment, and assault are the words that the English language uses when these things are done to someone we care about. When they’re done to someone we don’t care as much about, such as someone else’s child, the same things get called “bullying” instead.)
    Calling prejudice only “sometimes” a cause of bullying is not only false, but dangerously false — because, when you only _sometimes_ identify the roots of any evil, that evil will remain and spread. (Imagine where we’d be today, if we still thought that scurvy was only “sometimes” caused by lack of vitamin C!)

    SISTO: “Not unlike other prejudices, this is an opportunity for parents and the school to promote social justice, tolerance, respect, and acceptance.”

    ———- RESPONSE: Promoting justice, respect, and so on, definitely matters. But justice, and all the rest of it, should have mattered _before_ the torture and assault. Treating these important and non-negotiable values as mere “strategies” to be hastily patched in after the fact … that is like watching me break my arms, then telling me that health and restored function are “strategies” which you will now use to promote a campaign to build a hospital. (And why does anyone call justice “_social_ justice”? — it is as if someone imagined that simply being just, simply being fair, couldn’t possibly be worthwhile unless it was “social” too. )

    SISTO:
    “Along with your help,”

    ——— RESPONSE: Who is the “your” here? Whom do you consider your audience? Us autistics? Our parents? If you meant to write the parents should be helping here, why not be clear about whom you’re talking to? Why not write “Along with the help of parents”?
    The context, evident throughout the rest of this piece, does of course make plain an unstated presupposition that “you” = “parent.” I’ll return to this a bit further down, at the point where you begin to make inescapably plain that you wrote as if you assumed an autism-interested audience to be parents and _only_ parents. It is just as if you and your editor had forgotten, or had never learned, that a VERY large percentage of the people reading anything with “autism” in the title are — surprise! — us autistics (Many of us are NOT parents, and are more than a little sick of the presupposition that “a person reading about autism = a parent = probably a person without autism. “)

    SISTO:
    “schools should focus not only on integration within the mainstream for education but also guidance of how to better connect socially to their peers with autism – possibly through workshops or specially-structured activities.”

    ———- RESPONSE: That isn’t strategy: it’s a goal (which could, presumably, be reached _by_ strategies which you aren’t, here, spelling out). Calling it a “strategy” is like a speech pathologist telling a patient who stutters that “your treatment strategy should be to not stutter.”

    SISTO:
    “2. Team Work: Working together as a team in partnership with you as the parent,”
    ——– RESPONSE: Why, again, equate “you” (each reader) necessarily with “parent”? Why not write “in partnership with _the_ _parent(s)_,” instead of presuming that everyone in your audience can be described as “the parent”? Writing “in partnership with parents” would have conveyed your meaning WITHOUT the exclusionism of using a “you” that immediately specifies it doesn’t REALLY mean _everyone_ present.

    SISTO:
    “the school’s teaching staff, aides, principal, counselors, and psychologists will provide the safest environment for your child to learn and enjoy.”

    ——– RESPONSE: Again, do you or your editor Imagine that “Autism Daily News” is only for parents? Why assume that “your child” makes sense about every reader? Why not “provide the safest environment for _each_ _child_ to learn and enjoy”? (This would include each child — and each parent — without leaving so many of your other readers feeling, once again, as though “Autism Daily News” had a sign on the door reading: “Parents Welcome! People With Autism: we don’t mean YOU.”)

    SISTO:
    “3. Autism Awareness Every Month: Not just during October’s National Bullying Prevention Month but always, more awareness of the bullying of kids with autism means more awareness of autism overall.”

    ——— RESPONSE: Again, this is not a strategy — in fact, it isn’t even a sentence. It’s relabeling a hoped-for goal as a strategy (“Treatment for stuttering: Don’t stutter”) because you had to give up calling it a “perk”

    SISTO:
    “4. Kids Learn Skills: Teaching your child how to deal with bullies increases her verbal communication with words, nonverbal communication like body language and facial expressions, survival skills, civil liberties, and independence.”

    ———- RESPONSE: Again, this is not a strategy. It’s a vaguely worded curriculum item (“Teaching your child how to deal with bullies” tells _what_ to accomplish, not _how_), followed by some hoped-for outcomes (one of which is poorly expressed: “verbal communication with words” is pleonastic, like “female adults who are women.”)

    SISTO:
    “5. Builds Strength: As your child learns defensive skills from you, his friends, and his teachers, he is growing stronger connections with everyone.”

    ———-RESPONSE: “Builds strength” (with what follows) is, again, not a strategy, but an expected outcome. Further, “stronger connections with everyone” are not always even _desirable_ outcomes. “Everyone” after all,,includes the child’s tormentors. It is immoral to expect — let alone to teach — the victim of tortures to grow stronger connections” with his or her torturers. (Further, it is psychologically destructive. Google “Stockholm Syndrome.”)

    SISTO:
    “6. More Friendships:”

    ———- RESPONSE: “More friendships” is not a strategy.

    SISTO:
    “Discussing the communication and social deficits experienced by kids with autism puts greater social responsibility on their peers who don’t have autism. When it comes to a child with autism, being a proactive observer can make all the difference to prevent bullying and protect them. As a result, your child will spend more time with good friends, make new friends, and possibly will want to get involved in different activities with them.”

    ———- RESPONSE: Again, this is not a strategy; it’s what you _wish_ would happen. “Discussing the communication and social deficits” does not mean that the people with whom they are discussed will _do_ anything about the “greater social responsibility” they now supposedly have. It does NOT mean, for instance, that the target of torture will now get better friends. Too often, all that “discussing the communication and social deficits” actually _does_ is to give a a child’s actual or potential tormentors a better idea of just how and where to take advantage of these and damage the child further.

    SISTO:
    “7. Overall Well-Being:”
    ———- RESPONSE: That isn’t a strategy, It’s a wished-for outcome.

    SISTO:
    “Monitoring potential bullying activity”

    ——— RESPONSE: This, at last, is a strategy … or might be. ONE strategy, 3/4 of the way down a list of ten, is a very poor intellectual or practical return for an article that claimed to deliver strategies.

    SISTO:
    “requires the te7. aching staff”

    ——– RESPONSE: Hmmmm, “requires the …” _what_, exactly?! That glaring typo (“teaching” misspelled to include a numeral, a space, and a punctuation mark) appeared also in the earlier (“perks”) version of your article. Anyone can make an error: but preserving the error, in two successive versions of the document, provides clear evidence that it was carelessly edited both times — if it had been carefully edited for its revision (as the circumstances demanded), an error of this size would have almost certainly have been caught before the article appeared in its (barely altered) new form. (Especially disturbing is the fact that the particular error made — involving, as it does, a space added within the word — causes the five letters of the intended word “teaching” to appear as the separate word “aching.” Of all the words which might be created — and retained — through careless editing, the word “aching” is particularly unfortunate in an article on the subject at hand.)

    SISTO:
    “to supervise more and create new interventions to ensure the well-being of your child.”

    ———— RESPONSE: This (which of course should be done _before_, rather than after, any child ends up tortured) is not a strategy. (If a professional exam in any professional field were to ask for a list of strategies for attaining some curricular or practical goal, how many of the strategies in this article’s list of ten would be evaluated as being concretely and specifically measurable enough to rate as strategies and to monitor in action?)

    SISTO:
    “8. Healthy Relationships: Ways to deal with bullying also help your child deal with sibling rivalry, ‘stranger danger’, or any other personal threat.”

    ———– RESPONSE: “Healthy relationships” is not a strategy. To state that “ways to deal with bullying” exist and have advantages — without detailing what those “ways” are — is, again, to call a non-strategy a strategy.

    SISTO:
    “9. Increased Life Skills: With your child’s increased communication, survival skills, and independence, she will become more aware of the people around her. This makes your child a conscientious citizen and a good Samaritan towards other people who may be in need overall, not just due to bullying.”
    ———— RESPONSE: Again, you are using the label “strategy” to (mis)name a goal — or, more precisely, a wish. It is as if a nutrition article on”ten strategies for losing weight” told readers to follow a “strategy” which was: “With losing weight, you will be healthy and you will start helping others to lose weight.”

    SISTO:
    “10. Self-Esteem: Ironically, and in spite of the bully’s goal to do the opposite, your child will grow self-confidence and self-preservation esteem.”

    ———– RESPONSE: Again: this is not a strategy. Further: “self-preservation esteem” is not good English, but is (once more) most likely to be sloppy editing.

    CONCLUSION:

    The “Band-Aid” quick-fix quality of the revision suggests a rush job — as if the writer, and/or the editor, thought that changing the title and a couple of surface details would prevent people from noticing that the piece remains substantially unchanged. In particular, as shown above the decision to reclassify alleged “perks” as “strategies” makes the content and structure of the work even more difficult to take seriously and to apply as real-world advice. The problems throughout the revision (notably including the weaknesses of structure and content which were created by misusing or misunderstanding the concept of “strategy”) do not speak well for the writing, editing, or other expertise involved. (I cannot speculate on whether the problems were allowed to pass into print because of sheer haste — people scrambling to fix a misguided article, and hoping that a surface retouching would pass muster — or because someone assumed that not everyone in the audience would bother to read very carefully after having discerned problems with a previous version of the work — or because of some other reason. Whatever the cause, though, the [slightly] revised article remains conspicuously inappropriate, in more than one regard, for “Autism Daily News” or any publication which strives to be helpful, fair, and respectful of its readers and of their experiences and concerns.)

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